Couples often seek the help of a therapist when one or both partners recognize problems in the relationship such as different goals, struggles with intimacy, or communication difficulties. By working in therapy you can identify the strengths and weaknesses in how you relate to each other and better understand the roles you and your partner play in creating problems in the relationship. This will help you discover ways to keep individual problems from interfering with your life together.
My work with couples starts with understanding each partners’ perceptions of the challenges they are facing. As with individual psychotherapy we will work together to establish the goals of the treatment. My role is to support each of you in a balanced way that recognizes your individuality. I will help each of you make informed decisions about your relationship but will not make decisions for you. Therapy should be a safe place to explore new ways of being. I encourage couples to experiment with each other and take risks.
Couples therapy can help you both develop and maintain a passionate, spontaneous, trusting and loving relationship. Often the process may lead you to acknowledge individual challenges from childhood or from past relationships. If these echos from the past are creating problems in the present a course of individual therapy may be recommended.