Couples often seek the help of a therapist when one or both partners recognize problems in the relationship such as different goals, struggles with intimacy, or communication difficulties. By working in therapy you can identify the strengths and challenges in how you relate to each other and better understand the roles you and your partner play in creating and maintaining problems in the relationship.
My work with couples starts with understanding each partners’ perceptions of the challenges they are facing. As with individual psychotherapy, we will establish the goals of the treatment together. My role is to support and guide each of you in a balanced way that recognizes your individuality and needs, and helps you process your experience in the relationship.
My approach to couples therapy is grounded and informed by Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT), a proven evidence-based model of therapy with exceptionally high rates of effectiveness. Using the techniques of EFT I work compassionately and collaboratively with couples to identify the underlying, destructive, negative cycle of communication and behaviors that hamper growth and problem resolution in the coupleship. By highlighting these cycles, couples are better able to find more constructive, nurturing ways to communicate their needs and desires and work through the challenges they encounter.
I have also received extensive training in the Gottman Method of Couples Therapy. The method also helps couples break through barriers to achieve greater understanding, connection and intimacy in their relationships. Through research-based interventions and exercises, it is a structured, goal-oriented, scientifically based therapy. This method, coupled with EFT, guides my work in strengthening the coupleship in the partners I work with.
Therapy should be a safe place to explore new ways of being. I encourage couples to experiment with each other and take risks. Couples therapy can help you both develop and maintain a passionate, spontaneous, trusting and loving relationship. Often the process may lead you to acknowledge individual challenges from childhood or from past relationships. If these echoes from the past are creating problems in the present a course of individual therapy may be recommended.